Dark Hearts Healing Arts
Building Boundaries for Procrastinators, Perfectionists, and People Pleasers
What if I told you that, actually, you aren't a procrastinator, perfectionist or people pleaser? These behaviors are not who you are; they're coping mechanisms and they can change.
The Procrastinator, The Perfectionist, and The People Pleaser share a common core:
They have an impaired ability to maintain delineation. In other words, they lack boundaries.
There are ways in which your nervous system feels under-resourced or overwhelmed, whether in a generalized sense or in specific situations, and your wonderful brain figured out how to regulate that stress while also keeping you safe and getting your needs met (however circuitously) by sacrificing boundaries and adopting these behavior patterns.
But there comes a time, and you're probably there now, where what's gotten you to where you are will not take you to where you're trying to go. This is when it's time to learn a new way.
This program is completely personalized to you. You won't be forced to fit into a framework or expected to copy what has (supposedly?) worked for others. No one else has had your experiences, nor have they processed them through your mind, body, and emotions.
We figure out what works - and what won't work - for you so you can make this change for yourself as sustainably and successfully as possible.
Program Structure
Weeks 1 - 4: Innovate
In this phase, we'll uncover and unravel your personal understanding of, and experiences with, boundaries. We'll identify how this has worked for you in the past and what needs to be introduced or optimized for you to experience an empowered present and to create the future you're working toward.
Weeks 5 - 8: Implement
Once we've envisioned and established new boundaries based on your needs, nervous system, and intentions, you'll begin enforcing them in your daily life at a pace that works for you. This process takes practice - you'll be supported through any discomfort and doubt, as well as have your successes celebrated, as you experiment with upholding boundaries.
Weeks 9 - 12: Iterate
As you enforce your new boundaries, it's normal to have miscommunication or mishaps. This is good! This is where you find your edges of rigidity and permeability. Based on what you learn through implementation, we'll take time to clarify and adjust things so you can feel comfortable and confident practicing your boundaries on your own!
Start Building Strong Boundaries Today
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Living in a constant cycle of "boom and bust" with your energy, health, money, and relationships
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Feeling invisible when it's your turn to need support, consideration, or to have an emotional response
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Framing what you want based on what you think you're allowed to have
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Shutting down and clamming up when you want to say "no" but feel pressured to say "yes"
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Beating yourself up for putting yourself in a compromising situation (again)
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Having nothing left over for yourself after you've taken care of what other people need or expect
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Trusting your gut and the decisions you make for yourself, your loved ones, and your life
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Knowing what and how much you need in order to feel fulfilled and sufficiently resourced
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Giving generously without crashing out, compromising yourself, or feeling resentful
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Enjoying and nourishing yourself without guilt, anxiety, or doubt
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Cultivating personal and professional relationships rooted in reciprocity and mutual benefit
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Meeting your goals with a sense of pride, feeling both rewarded and rested, and the space to appreciate and celebrate your accomplishment
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Pricing & Particulars
Total Program cost: $2,330. Can be paid in full at sign up, or can be paid in 3 monthly installments of $777 prior to weeks 1, 5, and 9.
Program consists of 12 private, weekly coaching sessions that run for 75 minutes each, and are conducted online via Zoom. Sessions are recorded, unless you prefer not, and emailed to you within 24 hours.